Sunday, May 3, 2009

Holding the Rope

On both of my blogs, I have written about how much I love my wife.  My dating relationship with her began in 1984, and we were married in 1986.  There have been all sorts of trials and blessings throughout our marriage.  Never in our marriage, even in our darkest times, did I ever think about leaving this relationship.

And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken. (Ecclesiastes 4:12) KJV

Read this verse carefully.  It is the secret of the "strength of  love" that I have for my wife.  I took a vow before God, and to her.  There are three of us in this relationship.  There is God, my wife, and myself.  All three were present, and fully aware of the vows we were taking.  We took those vows joyfully.  When things have gotten out of sorts in my head, I go back to that day we took those vows.  I remember how much I loved her at that time.  I will share a little secret with you.  I love her more this day than I have ever loved her before!  This is the work of God and I cannot explain it any other way.  If you notice, that it does not say that it cannot be broken.  It only says that it is not quickly broken.  This is good in the fact that you have time to remember the love that you once had for one another.  This is good because it gives you time to reconsider, if you are planning on ending your relationship.  This cord does not have to break at all!  When God is involved with the day to day life of a married person, you will consider your spouse above yourself. So view this as an appeal to all that are considering ending their marriage.  Allow God to be the Lord of your marriage. Give your marriage one more chance before you give up!  He is able to heal a marriage just as He is able to heal anything else. If you feel that you are at the end of your rope...God wants to be the third strand in that rope.

Father, I thank you for the wife that you have given me. I thank you for all of those that will read this. I ask that you would minister to anyone that is hurting from a bad relationship. Heal the unions of men and women that have taken the vow of marriage before you. Minister to them and grant them peace and love.  I pray this in the name of Jesus, Amen.


  1. I have never been married, but I do agree that God has to be the center of both the wife and husbands relationship for it to last.

  2. Should you ever get married, you will find out how God gives you a love for your spouse that you cannot do on your own. It is very special. It defies reason or logic. It is truly unconditional. Thank you for your comments.

  3. It's wonderful that you and your wife share such a strong bond. It's hard to hang on when there seems to be so many trials and tribulations and the ties that bind seem so weak.I wish I had that closeness within my own marriage.

  4. The closeness that I have for my wife is attainable for you and your husband as well. I believe that with all of my heart. My prayer for you is that God would show Himself to your marriage. The strength to hold on comes from Him. The ties that bind may seem weak. God's strength is made perfect in our weakness. Look at 2 Corinthians 12:9 as it is well worth the time it takes to read. You have a good day Laura, I really want you to. :) Thank you for coming by.